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TikTok, a vile waste of a site designed to zap the last of our attention spans, has uncovered a new “trend” wherein female servers are wearing their hair in pigtails to get better tips. Their reasoning is baffling.

“Unfortunately, women are going to be fetishized in different ways by what they look like,” said Lisa Stirling, 25, a server who is among those sharing the results of the experiment on TikTok. “If changing my hair up is going to affect that in a positive way, then it’s something I’m going to give a shot.”

Of course, there is no actual science or data to back this up. Do certain hairstyles make someone look younger? Perhaps, but I can think of plenty of older women who still look older regardless of how they wear their hair. Also, I don’t appreciate the implication that every man is some sick pervert who constantly fantasizes and fetishizes every woman they come into contact with. 

Not only is it an insult to men, but it is an insult to women who don’t believe in or play these games. There are plenty of sick weirdo men out there, but I don’t think it is so widespread that a female server’s tips are going to skyrocket because her hairdo tickled something in their customers’ brains.

What I Look For In A Good Server

As someone who has spent too much money eating at fancy restaurants, I think I can spot a good server. Unless service is bad, I almost always tip at least 20% regardless. But if the service isn’t good at a restaurant, it will deter me from a place just as much as subpar food. And here’s a hint, I don’t care or even notice how someone wears their hair. 

So here are some things I look for in a good server. This is based on my personal experience both working in the service industry and as a diner. 

Conversational But Not Chatty

I love getting to know a server if I am there to enjoy a meal. But I also don’t need to have a long conversation. And they don’t either. They’re there to do a job, which is to give you food and ensure you’re enjoying your time. A quick, friendly server who asks for and remembers names is a great start.

And this one goes both ways. Don’t hold your server hostage. They have other tables to work on. Especially if they’re busy! Let them go. 


This skill comes with time and is something I only expect at a place where you pay a little more. If you know that someone will want another drink or is ready for dessert, think a few steps ahead and put in that order or have the dessert menu ready. 


This might be the biggest one for me. I quickly blow through a gallon of water at a restaurant. So if you’re leaving the pitcher there, having regular refills from a server is crucial. They don’t need to refill me every time I take a sip, but a general rule is that if my glass is half full, why don’t you go ahead and top it off? 

Diners Have To Do Their Parts Too!

Respect is a two-way street. Here are some quick rules as a diner on how to treat a server.

  • Golden Rule: Treat people how you want to be treated. Do you like being yelled at when you’re working? Probably not.
  • Don’t snap at them: Servers aren’t animals. They’re people at their jobs. Wave your hand, make eye contact, and add a smile. 
  • If the food isn’t great, don’t take it out on the server: A good place will be OK with constructive feedback or just saying you didn’t like a dish. But your steak being undercooked or something not spicy is not your server’s fault. Say, “Hey, I am not enjoying this. Anyway you could adjust it?” Or ask them to take it away. 

What do you look for in a good server? Share your thoughts in the comment section below.

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